Stop Having the Same Fight
MOVE BEYOND THE ENDLESS CYCLE.
TRULY UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER.
DO THESE ISSUES SOUND FAMILIAR?
Are you tired of having the same argument for the hundredth time with no actual resolution?
Does it feel like you are living with a roommate, not a romantic partner?
Do you have to "manage" your partner’s emotions just to keep the peace?
Do you worry that you are no longer in alignment on the big things like your future, your kids, or your values?
Are there some things you just can’t talk about anymore and now it’s turned into a lasting resentment?
Most communication problems aren’t actually about communication
At Blueprint Relationship Therapy, we’ll use the gold standard of couples therapy work as our bedrock: Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy. These are the most well researched and empirically backed models in existence, and they work because they are based on decades of data rather than just theory.
While the science is the foundation, the application is custom tailored to your specific dynamic. You don't need someone to just nod along while you vent. You need an expert who can see the patterns you are stuck in and provide a clear path out. Communication skills are the tactics that get you to truly connect to one another. And you have to be good at it.
We’ll practice skills to calm the daily friction of communication issues to create a relationship that is grounded, equitable, and actually brings you joy. Let’s help rewrite the next 20 years of your relationship.
What process you can expect?
De-Escalate and Understand
We’ll turn down the temperature and learn to regulate ourselves to create emotional safety in the relationship
Deepen Your Relationship
Through a mixture of proven methods and tools, we will clarify your communication cycle to help you see what’s really going on underneath the surface
Grow Together
Each growth journey is unique. We will practice new skills and learn to connect and grow with our partner
Hi, I’m Russ, a MFTC who specializes in communication issues.
Break the cycle and finally connect.
I work with couples who are done going in circles. Most of them don't have a character flaw. They have a pattern, one that's been running long enough that it feels like just 'how we are together.’
My job is to help you see that pattern clearly and interrupt it. I'm direct. I'll name what I'm observing. And I'll ask the question both of you have been avoiding.
How do you work with communication issues?
Together, we will get to the root of:
Why your "talks" keep turning into fights or frustrating silence
How to ask for what you truly need without it feeling like an attack
The hidden scripts and patterns that keep you both stuck in the same loop
How to stop over-functioning and managing your partner’s emotions
How to build a partnership that actually feels like a team again
What skills will you gain?
Identify the issues
Pinpoint the exact reasons and underlying causes of your issues
Break dysfunctional cycles
See your conflict cycle in real time and learn to break out of it
Rediscover strengths
Gain fresh perspectives of what makes you stay in love
